Updated: Apr 23
You don’t always have to involve yourself in everything.
Whether at home, in the workplace, or in relationships, you are not always required to jump in and participate at every single discussion or activity happening within… even if you feel the need to.
A recent client of mine came up to me and complaint how spending her time with family makes her stressed out. She confessed that there’s a lot of bickering, fighting, miscommunications, and she just couldn’t stand it anymore.
I told her she doesn’t have to be in it, that she doesn’t need to participate. She can simply step back and observe. From doing so, I explained, that she will be able to see what's really going on. And upon seeing the bigger picture, she can choose whether to participate or not.
She told me, “I can't believe how much they bicker! From taking a step back and observing, I felt all the negativity that surrounds them.”
Pause or Participate?
When you feel the need to participate or react to everything that’s happening around you, it will cost you so much energy. When in fact, you don’t need to. You can simply pause, be an observer, and use your energy to more productive things instead.
When my client followed my advice, she said it made her happier and more contented. She chose not to involve herself in her family’s petty quarrels and instead made use of her time to focus on more important things.
Try it for yourself, too.
When you get stuck in a difficult or stressful situation, ask yourself: “Should I pause or participate? Should I react or take a step back?”
Slow Down, Step Back, and See the Bigger Picture
This was one of my biggest “Aha!” moments when I was just starting with my business. I realized that you don't actually have to participate with whatever is happening in your surroundings.
When you take a step back, you're actually giving yourself an option whether to participate or tell yourself, “Wait, this isn’t for me! I will not grow or be productive with this. I’d rather use my time to do something more meaningful.”
So, I encourage all of you to start being the observer and have that choice. Remember, you don’t always have to react or participate. You can step back from the stress, the trivial things, the negativity, the nuisances… and watch your whole life change!
Do you need time to pause and step back from many worries in life and in business? Let’s talk about it. I can help you figure out what’s causing all the stress and how to overcome them.